Connect by using Constructive Words

Did you know that the words that come out of our mouths are like a tool? Sometimes they're like a sledgehammer. We swing away without thinking and end up with a pile of relational rubble. Sometimes they're like a saw, cutting people down. If we keep using these tools, inevitably our relationships are going to suffer.

One reason we aren't constructive with our words is we don't realize how powerful they are; yet, I bet you can still remember things people said to you in a thoughtless way as far back as grade school or college. That's how powerful words are. They leave a lasting impact. So when it comes to your mouth, think of it as a power tool and be very careful with it.

Here's how to build instead of destroying with your words--

Stop excusing-- Stop saying, "I didn't really mean to say that." Realize that what you say impacts everyone around you.

Talk less-- If it's a power tool, you don't have to use it as much. One of the reasons we get in trouble is we just talk too much sometimes.

Listen more-- If I listen more, I can understand people's needs.

Start Building-- Think first of all, "What do they need?" How can I use a word of encouragement to build them up? How can I use a word of challenge to make a difference in someone's life? How can I use my words to build up the people I love the most?

Key verse:

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."(Ephesians 4:29 NIV)

What a great teaching taken from Rick Warren! I was reminded instantly of 2 good friends of mine Jonny and Jason they were always talking about 4:29 whenever someone in our youth group or when we were just simply hanging out. 4:29 was referring to Ephesians 4:29! So it was funny and encouraging at the same time to see that. It was a good tool to get our students to encourage one another instead of tear each other down. Alot of times we don't realize the power of our words and say whatever comes to mind, but we are told in the Bible that kind words heal and help while cutting words wound and hurt ( Proverbs 15:7 MSG) You have to filter what you say because we never know who we are going to affect with our words!